“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” ~Margaret Meade
What happens after “Hello”?
The possibilities are endless and the opportunities are ripe. Yet, how often do we let those chances for thoughtful, in-depth conversation go unrealized and instead steer the dialogue towards light , non substantial topics which pass time and are easily dismissed and free of any mental or emotional significance.
If you want more from your conversations, approach future conversations with these three tips in mind:
- Sincerity.
- Engagement .
- Echo – ing.
To connect and reap the benefits of productive conversation, one must first “S-E-E” the other person.
Sincerity must be expressed clearly in the initial greeting (Alpoga, 2012). Many take for granted that greetings are deeply grounded in ritual, passed down throughout cultures from generation to generation. Verbal and no-verbal cues go a long way in setting the tone and intent for the conversation. Being relaxed, smiling, making eye contact, hand shake grip, and exhibiting an open/ inviting posture, will set the interaction off to a pleasant start.
Following the appropriate rendering of pleasantries, casually transition the conversation with the purpose of engagement. Questions like “So…what have you been up to?” and , “Whatever happened with…”, here you can insert any of the person’s past or current endeavors(Mann, 2008). These questions require more than a yes of no answer and can lead the conversation smoothly into a deeper level.
Lastly, “echo” is a term used to describe what takes place when the listener confirms they comprehend the speaker’s message. Summarizing the position or building on the conversation with additional questions that support the speaker’s perspective are forms of echo-ing. As the conversation continues, the chances are high that through natural progression, indicators will become apparent where collaboration and further conversation will be fruitful.
“Echo – ing” does not mean the parties have to agree. Once the listener has confirmation that they understand the speaker’s intent, they may then offer a counterpoint, for example, “I see what you’re saying, you mean……”. Summarize their point. Do not proceed with a counterpoint until the speaker confirms you do understand their meaning. At that point one can add, “That’s and interesting point, have you considered……”, here enter additional thoughts for reflection(Dreeke, 2012).
Start today, making the most of your relationships and interactions. You have the potential to connect, encourage and maybe change the world!!
References:
Alpoga, A. (2012). Communication, Conversation, Cooperation. Frankfurt am Main: Peter Lang.
Dreeke, R. K. (2012). Mastering Rapport and Having Productive Conversations. FBI, Law Enforcement Bulletin. 81(10). pp. 8-17.
Mann, M. (2008). Start Your Own Coaching Business. Canada: Entrepreneur Press, Inc.