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That’s Good Enough

Sometimes,  to achieve my goals, I tell myself, “Ki, that’s good enough.” Otherwise, I would never get anything done. I credit this small internal dialogue with much of my personal success.

I coach a lot around the ‘knowing doing gap’ – the client knows what they want to do, they know the justification, they have given the matter lots of consideration, yet, the action of ‘release’ or ‘delivery’ is delayed and the only barrier ends up being personal beliefs and behaviors that no longer serve the individual.

I have had my personal progress stalled because I feel an irrational need to have more information, a need to give a situation a more thought, to reach out to yet another source for encouragement and feedback. Then, at some point, I say “Ki, that’s good enough.”

I recognize that by telling myself “That’s good enough,” I’m speaking to the fear that tells me, “It will never be good enough.” But then, I think, “Good enough for what?”

“Is it good enough to be perfect?”
“No.”
“Is it good enough to add to a conversation?”
“Absolutely.”
“Is it good enough to encourage, inspire and prompt someone else to say, ‘That’s good enough,’ and add their light to the conversation?”
“Now that, would be everything.”

Individual efforts are messy, limited and narrow at best. Today’s problems are too complex, ambiguous and volatile for one individual with their limited knowledge, experienced, information and perspective to get very far. Take your issues to your team, enlist the support of a trusted advisor, find a coach or mentor that meets your needs and make drastic moves towards your personal goals and success!!

Final Thought: “Never let better be the enemy of good enough.”

Keeping “The Cold Within” Out of Your Team

There is a purpose behind every problem. Oftentimes a really ‘great’ problem will cause you and your team to grow and transform in ways unimaginable. Much like the video portrays, everyone has a “log” to place in the fire. Few teams have everyone contributing at their maximum potential. Sometimes team members feel their contribution somehow leaves them with less, not appreciating that the team (and company) only survives if EVERYONE commits.

Leaders that ‘build bridges’, recognize and address the frictions that lead to a “Cold Within” scenario. They do this in three Ways:

Recognize and Address Issues Directly: Patrick Lencioni (2002) relays in the                         ‘5 Dysfunctions of a Team’, clues a leader has an issue. They are:

  1. Absence of Trust
  2. Fear of Conflict
  3. Lack of Commitment
  4. Avoidance of Accountability
  5. Inattention to Results

Again, diagnosing the symptoms of a problem is only the first step. The leader must address the issue(s), understanding that they build upon one another. For example, if the team is not interested in results, the 5th characteristic, the other four signs likely factor into the issue and must be addressed.

Cultivate Big-Picture Thinking:  In “How Successful People Think”, John C. Maxwell (2009) relays a story about how Jack Welch once told a GE employee that the ongoing relationship with the customer took priority over the sale of any individual product. Managers must remind their teams of the big picture – projects come and go, competitors, consumers and markets change – but a solid team, built on good relationships, will thrive in all circumstances.

Have a Game Plan: Team dysfunction is not a question of “if”, but “when”. The “bridge builder” keeps her tools ready and has already considered their actions in addressing internal conflicts and challenges the team might encounter. They play out potential scenarios, they talk out potential courses with their colleagues, mentors and coaches, to be clear on their plan and intentions. They are ready. This keeps their team on time, on task and on target (Kimsey-House et. al., 2011).

References:

Kimsey-House, H., Kimsey-House, K., Sandahl, P. & Whitworth, L. (2011). Co-Active Coaching: Changing Business Transforming Lives. (3rd Ed.). Boston: Nicholas Brealey Publishing.

Lencioni, P. (2002). The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A leadership parable. San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass.

Maxwell, J. C. (2009). How Successful People Think: Change your thinking, change your life. New York: Center Street.

 

Best Leadership Advise for 2015

 

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As we reflect on the great successes and opportunities for improvement discovered in 2014, let us commit to growth, learning and continued pursuits towards excellence in 2015. Consider the following advice. It will improve your leadership, your relationships and your personal well-being. Happy New Year!!

  1. Make time to think. Thinking must be intentional and a priority. It should not be something we do when we have the time. We must make (take) the time to think!! In his book, How Successful People Think (2009), John C. Maxwell interviews Chick-fil-A, President, Dan Cathy. Cathy, a highly successful multi-millionaire, shared that he had a ‘thinking schedule’.  He scheduled half a day every two weeks and one full day every month and 2 – 3 full days every year specifically for the purpose of thinking. Having these personal operational pauses allows us to maintain focus, clarity and resolve about key and important things vital to winning – in business, as professionals, personally, spiritually and within all relationships.
  2. Leader, know (and align) thyself!! Before a leader takes on the task of aligning the organization, building, managing and leading teams and corporations, he or she must first align themselves. As leaders, our strengths are our team’s strengths, and our weaknesses are our team’s weaknesses. Leaders shape the vision, the values, the objectives and culture of the organization. Yet, many have never taken the time to sit down and write out their own personal vision, mission, goals, values and non-negotiable beliefs. Getting clear in this area provides clarity in all dealings (Ramsey, 2011). Clarity breeds consistency, which establishes dependability and trust, resulting in more productive, happier, resilient organizations and teams.
  3. Embrace and accept that you (and your leadership) are unique. In the Power of You (2013), Chris Michaels, makes a keen and profound observation when he writes, “There’s never going to be another you!! God made just one. Nobody talks like you. Nobody thinks as you do….. You’re an original piece f work, created by a Master Artist.”

I can only be me. No one else on this planet will ever have my voice, my thoughts, my perspectives or prerogatives. These things make me – perfectly unique. You can only be you. Give the gift of you to your team, to your loved ones, to the world  – EVERYDAY!!

References:

Maxwell, J. C. (2009). How Successful People Think: Change your thinking, change your life. New York: Center Street.

Michaels, C. (2013). The Power of You: How to live your authentic, exciting, joy-filled life now! New York: Penguin Group.

Ramsey, D. (2011). EntreLeadership: 20 Years of Practical Business Wisdom from the Trenches. New York: Howard Books.